Lesson Learnt Today - Your Anger is your Enemy

As planned in my last post, I originally thought of starting off with a travelogue on the trip to Mahabaleshwar.

But something that happened today caught my attention. The incident is nothing different. Probably, it is the same incident that takes place every now and then in households. But most of us dont give a timely thought and get to damage things more.

I have started writing this blog just after shouting my voice off and banging the kitchen utensils with all the vengeful feelings that I could not show on anyone else. My poor husband ends up being the sink of such occasional outbursts. The reason is not different from the petty household one. My irritation at some of the incomplete house-setting up works (We have moved to a new home roughly a month back). The complication is that I could not fully blame my husband for I was not perfect in organizing things well. The anger went about greeting all the non living unbreakable things at home. My anger was not different from that of any other housewife, but it was the way my husband handled it. Taking all my tantrums, he calmly said, " May be an occasional outburst is necessary so that both of us learn to do things on time, keep things at place and make this home a happier place".

This left me dazed for a second, for instead of reversing the blame game, he clubbed both of our responsibilities so well, accepting his faults as well as reminding mine in such a calm and constructive way. This reminded me of one more telugu poem we learnt in our school days,

"తన కోపమే తన శత్రువు
తన శాంతమే తనకు రక్షా దయ చుట్టంబౌ,
తన సంతోషమే స్వర్గము
తన దుఃఖమే నరకమౌను తథ్యము సుమతి"

The meaning runs like : One's anger is one's enemy while one's peace is one's protector. One's happiness is one's heaven and one's misery is one's hell.


Lesson learnt: Anger is The Enemy. Controlling anger is the first step to overcome the problem that caused it :)